I recently wrote this for a friend of mine and thought that I would share it with everyone.
- Waning Moon & leading up to the new moon you will need to do a Cord Cutting. If you have any painful diary entries that were generated purely for cathartic reasons, gather them now and write down the positives from this relationship which has just ended and consider how this person has changed you for the better
- Here is a great Cord Cutting Ritual.
- New Moon: a time for introspection, deciding how you will move forward and gathering helpful and healthy concepts to build your strength
- Waxing Moon: A Self Love Spell every Friday night
- Full Moon: organise well in advance to have a night of celebration for your achievement with friends
Begins on the New Moon – Leading up to the New Moon, allow this time to do your Cord Cutting Ritual on a Tuesday in order to clear your head for this ritual. If you don’t do this, you will end up not having the head space for it and your heart will still have the cord which connects the two of you and will sap you of energy. What you need now is to clear your head and remind yourself of all of your wonderful qualities.
Leading up to the Cord Cutting allow yourself to get out any more frustration, anger, sorrow – anything which is necessary to get out of your system. I find that the best way to get this out of my system is to take it out on my house – clean the place up, pay bills, get rid of that crap you’ve been meaning to send to the Salvation Army for ages as a way of psychologically clearing and preparing for your Self Love Spell. When I feel like I’m really in a knot I do exercise, and literally ‘pace’ by going on a huge walk or something else cardiovascular so that I grunt out the bad energy and end up with endorphins going ‘Weee!’ afterwards. Avoid feeling anger directly towards the ex lover as whatever you send out you get back times three. A friend of a friend was thinking bad thoughts about her recent ex all day, and he texted her saying ‘Been thinking about you a lot today, and I’ve seen a lot of dead butterflies around – what does that mean?’ Not only was she torturing him by making him think of her, she was also destroying life with her thoughts. This is why cord cutting is so important: your longing and pain can, like a butterfly effect, become a monster of its own.
ON THE NEW MOON
The new moon is both an introspective time and a time of rebirth, embryonic growth and new beginnings. Falling on a Saturday, this day of the week represents rebirth, (psychological) agriculture and harvest, protection, expelling negative energy of the week just gone and to meditate on reincarnation in the womb of the Great Mother. This is a great time to either have an introspective & meditative day on your own amongst nature or to spend with family or friends talking about how you intend to move forward, what you’re looking forward to leaving behind which you could draw strength from. Be brutally honest with yourself and try as best as you can to remove yourself in order to get an outer perspective. Throw your emotions aside and look exactly at where you are right now. This is a good day to gather acorns or oak leaves, which represent both new beginnings, strength and resilience. Consider having a picnic with friends to gather these items. Keep about 6 acorns and put them in your wallet, pocket, around the home and sneak one under your pillow for any restless nights or anything else you can find to represent strength and resilience. If neither of the above are available to you, garlic cloves are great too.
Plan what you will do on the full moon to celebrate your achievement.
WHAT TO GATHER NOW:
A dozen red roses
Some lavender flowers (the real thing)
A packet of poppy seeds (from the supermarket, only about $1.60)
FRIDAY NIGHT SELF LOVE SPELL LEADING UP TO THE FULL MOON
** Leading up to the first Friday start exercising, getting out and doing unusual things and maybe being amongst nature a bit more.
** Leading up to the second Friday consciously meditate more often
From the new moon to the full moon you’re gathering energy and strength and most importantly – self love. This is a time to really concentrate on a healthy outlook and to focus on the qualities which make you so wonderful, which you are! Every Friday night do a simple self love spell by taking a bath and putting:
- rose petals for self love AND devotion to a healthy state of mind
- lavender flowers for peace, harmony & protection (self preservation)
- orange slices for positivity and happiness
**I’d strongly advise not to put essential oils into the bath because some give you thrush! If you want to grab yourself some lavender oil to wear during the day do so, but water it down with almond or safflower oil first as it can’t directly touch the skin. The only time you put it directly onto the skin is for minor burns and pimples, much like tea tree oil. Watered down lavender oil can also be used as a natural insect repellent.
If you want, also create a drink of water with rose petals, lavender and orange slices so that you’re cleansed in and out. You can eat the rose petals and orange slices.
When you’re in the bath, use the poppy seeds to give yourself a full body scrub (don’t press too hard!) it’s an amazing exfoliant, and in a psychological sense, helps you to scrub away any doubts, misgivings or sadness from the week leading up to this night. Relax yourself completely and envision your heart chakra (just where the heart is) lighting up as a soft, healthy leafy green. As you breath in and out, feel your breathing spinning the heart chakra like a wheel and let its glowing energy fill your body. Allow yourself a good ten minutes or so to really enjoy this, and only concentrate on the spinning and sensation without any interfering thoughts. Once you’re used to this, use this mantra:
I am my thoughts, my thoughts make the world.
I am lovely, beautiful and can still share love.
I am love.
Once you’re done, give your body a moisturise, tuck yourself into bed and write down any thoughts. Only write down thoughts that move you ahead and make you appreciate the person that you are and what makes you a good person.
Treasuring yourself isn’t egoic, you can’t love others unless you love yourself. You are connecting with the whole universe and the more you send out the more you get back times three. Self love spells are wonderful, and as I’ve noted before – do not do love spells to attract another lover! The idea of a self love spell is to remind yourself of your best qualities to bring love and healthy energy to those around you, hence the threefold effect will benefit others and not just yourself.